Gratitude Download & Vision

I just had thee most amazing dream this morning about 430am.

I dreamt I was invited to this big wedding, I didn’t even know the bride and groom.

My friend Gail Vilcu was there with me too. We were getting ready in our hotel room and for some reason I was being showered with all these gifts from Brandy Mychals and Vinca Heart, who were putting on the wedding. They weren’t there in person but the gifts were from them.

 

There was a gold chain necklace with a walnut shaped pendant filled with black onyx, which was framed with ivory (I know its illegal but this is a download people) with the hugest humongous diamond set in it. Then there was a pair of platinum colored high heels; it said size 4 on the label which was from another country, Italy I thought, but I trusted  & knew they’d fit me.

 

Then there was a pair of black silk slippers but when I unwrapped them one of them was about half the size of the other one. I trusted that I’d be receiving the correct sized mate slipper eventually. I put them down and the next time I saw them they were the same size!

 

Then there was a gift certificate of $100, but I looked at it closer and it turned into $1,000 x 4 (this is what I saw in the download). Then I became so embarrassed and ashamed at first, because the gifts I’d brought to give my hosts were so small in comparison. I began looking around for all the messes I should clean up in the room, which suddenly had a kitchen too, and as I wiped the counters clean I began to feel more worthy. It was like I was beginning to understand that I’m included, I belong. I may have some lifting up of myself to do but I was there for a reason, and yes, even though I still have some messes to clean up.

 

Then all this gratitude came over me and I abruptly woke up at 4:58 am. I noted the time as I awoke realizing that this was a download I was receiving from a higher source. I immediately made the connection about the time too because, you see, I had said last night before I went to bed at 1am that I was going to start tomorrow (which is now)  getting up at 5am like Brandy had said she does, because I somehow knew that would be good for me. But when I set my alarm I let my being tired tell me that it was more realistic to set it for 6am. Ha! How do you like them apples!

 

So, I think the lesson of the day is GRATITUDE & Taking ownership of the messes and the gifts! Do you think I got it right?

But a deeper level of gratitude, I think I’ve been given gifts by so many that I’m not even aware of are in the process that is  just now unfolding. This brings me a deep sense of trust in myself and that I have arrived with these people around me in my life at this very time in my life.

 

Thank you to my friend Gail Vilcu who introduced me to Brandy and who has supported me so much by holding a vision for me of being the bigger person that I wanted to become, and in ways even I don’t know, this I trust.

 

Thank you Brandy Mychals & Vinca Heart for the treasures that you are and for beaming that light on so many people in the world, meeting us ‘eye to eye’ (wink Vinca) and empowering us to see that we are worthy, that you are holding that vision for us to see and step into. I’m so grateful to know you both, to be a receiver of the gifts you’ve put in play for me and all of us to abound in and pay forward in the world. I feel like I’m with angels who are guiding me! I am learning to trust.

 

And for whatever reason Adryenn Ashley, you are that presence for me too. I know our time together is about to come!

 

And I am in such gratitude this morning for all that I am, for all that I have and for all whom I know and will know in this lifetime. And a special shout out of gratitude to my angel husband, Harry Mason, whom I have been known to take for granted. But I forgive myself for that as I am the receiver of such unconditional love from a being that I was destined to be with, to help me learn this very lesson.

 

I am truly blessed.

Thank you angels for this incredible download! I love it when this stuff happens! I love that I am open, in this place of being humbled and being able to receive the blessings that have always been there and that I didn’t see. Thank you for showing me the light!

 

Wahoo! It’s 5:38 am and I’m starting my new day of my new life! I am most grateful right now that I am able to receive, just receive, because that is having come a long, long ways!

 

Declaration: I am showered with abundance of acceptance, love, joy and wealth in all areas of my life and I am truly grateful. I turn my umbrella of protection upside down to become my magnet and vessel for holding the abundance that is now rushing to me. I am receiving it fully with open arms and heart. My umbrella is infinite, for as I receive so shall I pay it forward and so shall there be an endless flow!

 

Yours,

Kathryn K Strong (aka: Kathryn the Great!)

Addendum to post: Lessons Learned From Jealousy

“I see the beauty in me and am free to see the beauty in everyone.”

What a great lesson to learn, to be able to overcome jealousy at such a deep level. The door to freedom is self love. This low point in my life sparked my desire to love myself so that I could love others.

 

Confronting the Four-Headed Monster!

I’m working on the 10 Pillars of building my business today. In reviewing my history about my life that I wrote out I came across a valuable lesson about my self concept and jealousy. I’m sharing it with you for several reasons. I think many of us may have experienced something like this in our lives and some may still be experiencing it at some level. I hope not, but if they are I would like them to know what jealousy stems from. Also, it is an exercise in my being seen, telling the truth about my past and forgiving. Although I don’t experience being jealous of anyone in present time, jealousy hugely overpowered me at one time in my life. It was like an uncontrollable four-headed monster that I had no say about. It was harmful to me and harmful to others.

As many of you who’ve read my blogs know I had a pretty traumatic childhood and it carried through into my teens. My self concept was very negative. I was programmed that I was nothing, I didn’t matter, I wasn’t pretty, wasn’t anything of value. I was one of eight mouths to feed, that’s about it (back then). Now, I’m not telling you this to feel sorry for me. I’m telling you this to understand where jealousy stems from. We are jealous of others when we feel we are less than inside ourselves. When we compare ourselves to others they will always come out ahead of who we are in every category. Make sense? Also, there are certainly different levels of any emotion or condition. The level of worthlessness that I experienced was so enormous and mammoth that the level of jealousy I experienced was overwhelming! I was literally enraged with it, like a cancer.

Here’s my story.

When I was in my early teens, maybe around 13 I went to the local park with two of my sisters. There we ran into a girl I knew in school who was with some of her siblings. Her name is Kay. Kay was so beautiful. She had big brown eyes, incredible wavy black long hair and milky skin. She had a voluptuous figure too. But instead of admiring her beauty it outraged me, because I felt like I was nothing! How I perceived myself led to how I behaved. I had to lash out at and hurt the thing that confronted me with the feeling of being less than.

I picked a fight with Kay. All I remember is lashing out at her, using my fingernails to scratch her face pretty badly. This is the level of pain and self hate that I felt within, that I would do such a thing!

Well, when I got home from the park I was in pretty big trouble! Kay’s mom had called mine and told her what I’d done. My mother was so furious with me! I got a pretty good beating and my nails got cut down to the quick until they bled! So, just imagine how much less I felt now, not to mention how I made a beautiful soul feel about herself!

I came to California March 1, 1975 and that is when I was fortunate enough to start my process of transformation, learning about past conditioning, behavior and how to love myself and others. Needless to say I’ve changed who I am and my life dramatically since I was 13. I tried to find out how to get hold of Kay for many, many years so I could apologise to her. I’d forgiven myself but I never forgot about asking for her forgiveness. Just last year I finally found how to contact her by email. I sent her a message explaining who I was and how sorry I was. I shared a little about what my life is about now. It felt so good to finally be able to tell her I was sorry. You know, I sent two messages to Kay and I’ve never heard back from her. It concerned me that maybe I traumatized her so much that she couldn’t talk to me. I hope not.

I’m grateful that I’ve healed and forgiven this in my life. I pray that Kay is okay. She knows my email address and I’d love it if someday she wanted to contact me, I’d love to tell her face to face how beautiful she is!

Sassy, Sexy & Sixty!

I Hit A Milestone Today!

Today is my 60^th birthday! How in the hell did that happen?

Now that I’m officially an ‘older woman’ I’d just like to say, ladies, it doesn’t matter what age you are it’s all about how you feel about yourself and about your life!

Hey, I feel like I’m forty. I’m sassy & sexy at sixty, AND I’ve not had one hot flash! I work out at the level of a 30 year old. I’m in the process of starting my second business. I’m surrounded by many people who love me. I have two incredible grand kids. I have so much more to be grateful for, too!

Here’s a few of my hottest ‘older woman’ healthy living tips:

1)    Eat only real food and only what you need

2)    Stop eating bread all together!

3)    Put up mirrors everywhere in your house so you can be constantly reminded of how fabulous YOU ARE!

4)    Have sex 3-4 times per week! Make it a priority!

5)    Make the following a priority too:

• Exercise and working out
• Taking your vitamins (and knowing what to take as you age)
• Getting annual hormone & glandular check ups
• Get on bio-identical Hormone Replacement Therapy
• Read Suzanne Somers book ‘Eight Steps to Wellness’
• Take hot baths, wrap your arms around yourself and tell yourself how much you love you every chance you get!

6)    Learn to meditate, do emotional release work and get body work!

7)    Hang out with successful people who want to support you in succeeding! The rest can just eat cake!

That should be enough to keep you busy for awhile!

Have fun lovelies!

Ask a More Empowering Question

Ask a More Empowering Question

Pain occurs when our life conditions don’t match our model of the world.

We each have our rules and values of how we think things should be, including the people in our lives. But when the circumstances that show up don’t match our rules and values it causes us pain. Suffering comes in when we feel helpless to impact any of it.

When this occurs we need to remember that we have choices.

Being a Victim is a Choice:

We can be in the pain and suffering and make our circumstances and the people around us wrong. This is called being a victim. We live like it’s true that we’re helpless and that our outside circumstances are controlling us, but this it totally untrue. We are allowing them to control us.

 

Changing Our Rules and Values is a Choice:

The reason we react versus respond to our circumstances is because we are resisting the mismatch. Hey, the sun is going to rise and set everyday whether we think it should or not. To resist this happening would be futile, yet this is how many people do live. The transformation comes when we begin to understand it’s our way of thinking that doesn’t serve us because it no longer empowers us to take action and make choices that are in ours or others’ best interest. It doesn’t give us the experience or the outcomes that are fulfilling.

 

When we can begin to become willing to create other perspectives by asking new questions we will begin to shift our experiences and outcomes. We will be able to shift, sometimes in small degrees to larger degrees, from less powerless to more powerful experiences and outcomes.

Tony Robbins says ‘The quality of ones’ life is directly proportionate to the quality of the questions one asks.’ Here’s an example of shifting from powerless to powerful.

Instead of asking ‘Why is this happening to me?’ ask ‘How can I benefit from this happening to me?’ or ‘There’s a lesson in all of this, what is it?’ or ‘What is a more empowering interpretation I can make from this occurrence?’

 

Let’s say someone you love is upset and yelling at you. Notice you immediately get defensive, this is a normal reaction. What if you asked instead, ‘How else could I respond to this other than being defensive?’ or ‘How could I find compassion for myself and this other person right now?’

If you’re not having the experiences and outcomes in your life, relationships and business that you want I invite you to look at the questions you are asking and how by asking a different question might get you a completely different experience and outcome.

Sound good? Ok, then, what’s your first question?

The Triad

I almost forgot to do tonight’s post. I’m very tired but here it is! I hope you enjoy!

The Triad:

Physiology

Focus

Language

These are the elements of the Triad. The Triad is made up of the elements that factor in to your emotional state, be it negative or positive.

Physiology:

Our physiology changes with how we feel. When we’re experiencing a negative emotion we look down, breathe more shallow, slump our shoulders and body and get a negative look on our faces according to the emotion. Anger, fear, depression & sadness each have a ‘look’ we express on our face.

Changing your physiology is the fastest way to change and control your emotional ‘state’. Try saying very angry things while standing erect with arms out reached into the sky and smiling from ear to ear. Go ahead, try it. You can’t ‘do’ angry while smiling and standing confidently and exuding happiness with your physiology, can you?

Focus:

Focus is what you’re thinking about. What you think about you experience. Thoughts lead to feeling. By consciously changing your focus you change your emotional experience.

Language:

Language is how you’re speaking, how you’re positioning what you’re saying. Speaking is like putting an order into the Universe. I like to say when you speak you’re putting in your order to the waitress of energy or the life force. You must be very clear and understand what you’re asking for because what you’re asking for with intention is what will show up.

Together these three elements create your emotional state. Want to change your emotional state? Then change your Physiology first and move in ways that make you ‘feel’ better, more alive and get energy flowing and pumping! That will change how you feel. At the same time become aware of what you’re focusing on and if it’s not what you really want to manifest then you’d better shift your focus and perspective. Language; create & practice language that empowers you and is uplifting and is in harmony with what you feel, whenever possible.

It’s all about being at choice and responding versus experiencing being out of control and reacting. Want to respond differently, practice changing these three factors that create emotional the state you’re in!

Surrendering Into Greatness and Gratitude

My flight to Canada today started off with a whole lot of complaining on my part. I was excited about going that is until I got to SFO! My blog today isn’t about my list of complaints, however. I would spare you that. It is about what happened to me because of them! A profound awakening occurred within me today that is worth reading about the process, which does include many complaints. That was the journey to my awakening. So, here we go.

 

OK, I was flying to Canada, right? So my husband, Harry Mason, dropped me off at the International Terminal at SFO. First of all, ‘I hate SFO’ was my mantra from the time I started packing for this trip so that alone might set me up for some consequences, you think? Harry lets me off at the curb. No baggage check stands on the outside of the airport. This is why I like flying out of Oakland! Oh well, Harry says ‘there’s carts right behind you’. Ok, get a cart. “Five Bucks! What a racket. I hate SFO!”

 

Get all my bags loaded onto the cart and enter the terminal. This terminal was designed by ‘Mr. Weenie’, the designer of all the modern hotel rooms and airports that look and feel massive, cold and ‘artsy’ but are totally a pain in the watusi as far as being user friendly or functional friendly. ‘All these counters and where the hell is United?’ Not a sign or anything pointing the way. Ok, just ask someone Kathryn.

 

‘Uh, you’re flying through Denver so you’re supposed to be in Terminal 3, Domestic’ says the United clerk. Ok, good thing I have a cart. I’m really going to get my money’s worth now! Two miles later (exaggerating a bit) I’m at the correct counter and check in my bags without event. Yay!

 

Wow, not only am I early but my flight is delayed 45 minutes. I’ve got plenty of time. Nice shops but I don’t need or want anything but water. Ok, I’ll get a soy latte’ even though I only drink coffee a couple times a year and regret it every time. This time is no different. I hate being buzzed like this. I think I’ll find a little place to do some stretching and exercising. Perfect little area. Stretch, do some lunges, triceps dips on a chair, ok this chair should work for my side dips for my waist. One, two, three, POP! What the hell was that. Holy Cow, I just did something to my right hip. I’m in tight blue jeans and belt. Never done this exercise in tight clothes before. Visual of bone popping out of socket in my head. OMG, I have really injured myself! Can I walk. Let’s see. OMG, just barely! What am I going to do now? I worry while I wait for the plane to start loading, barely being able to walk to get in line. I must have really pulled something bad. Hurts to take the stride back on my right hip. Let me try limping, yes that is less painful. OMG, I have to lift my bag now to board and it really makes my hip hurt. I can barely walk down the isle to my seat.

 

Get to my row and I have a window seat. I prefer isles, especially on such a large plane, completely full and barely room to bend over and get into my bag once it’s under the seat. Then things get really scary!

 

The plane is packed, it’s hot and I’m getting claustrophobic. OMG, this doesn’t usually happen, what is going on? I’ve got that damn coffee buzzing in my system and I’m freaked out from my injury……I start to panic and get really freaked out. I am reeked out to the point that I feel like I’m going to have to remove myself from the plane. Wait, you can’t do that Kathryn. You know how to calm yourself down. Yes, I do but for whatever reason it’s not working this time. I unbutton my tight jeans, remove my belt and slip off my shoes so as to experience some freedom of movement somewhere. My mind is racing with fear. What is up? Why am I experiencing this? OMG, this plane is going to crash. This is a premonition. I look around and think I am going to die and all these people are going to die today.

 

Wow, this is intense. I’m crying now. Then I get it. I just have to give up the fight, these are the words I’m getting like a transmission. ‘You just have to surrender. Surrender’ ‘I get it’, I say. I understand I surrender everything now. I surrender it all. Take me, just take me. Transmission ‘You are loved, you are cared for. You don’t have to think about a thing. Just trust.’

 

This feeling of peace and love and surrender just flows through my body. All of a sudden it doesn’t even feel like I have a mind anymore. I feel so loved and taken care of. There is no fear, no worry. Only peace now. Peace and tears. I want my husband to know how much I love him. He knows. All this gratitude and trust takes me.

 

I’m still crying, for about an hour off and on as the plane takes off and I get a transmission. ‘Enjoy the glorious view from your window seat Kathryn’. Yes, everything I see is like I’m seeing it for the first time. I’m in awe that I’m in the air, that we can actually fly in this big machine. I see the San Mateo bridge and am amazed that it was built across the long body of water. Just amazing! The mountains are so green, dimensional, textured, so incredibly profound to see. The bodies of water that are lakes and reservoirs are simply spectacular. And the clouds make me speechless! I’m crying I’m soooooo grateful to be alive today. I’m so grateful I don’t have to fight today. I’m so grateful that I see what I see, feel what I feel and know what I know. I’m just so grateful!

 

And it occurs to me how glorious and incredible it is to have this new sense of knowing what I want………I want to fly in first class from now on. Now that is not a petty, vain thing. That is treating me like the spiritual being that I am. I get this ‘aweness’ of how that is a generous thing to want for myself….a way of caring and nurturing for myself. All this struggle and effort and so little space and discomfort. I’m getting that I’m worthy of so much more than this……and that I can have it. Not like a ‘goal’ but like a knowing that it is there for me. All I have to do is stop the resistance, give up the fight and righteousness. It is meant for each of us, first class being just the symbol of freedom and abundance, because life in every aspect should be experienced from first class!

 

Wow, I just feel profoundly blessed! This was an amazing transformation and awakening for me. It was not only a shift of consciousness but an expansion that I feel emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.

 

SFO, I think your design sucks, but I have learned that there is wisdom in everything and everywhere and it comes at the strangest times. Now that I know, I know.

 

OMG, how am I going to get my bags from baggage claim and make it to curbside in Regina? I have no idea, but I know and trust that I’ll be provided for and taken care of. Canada, here I come. I’m only a half an hour away! Wahoo!

 

Kathryn Strong (I got this name for a reason!)

Keep Pointed in the Direction of Your Desires

Everything Happens for a Reason

When it looks like it’s falling apart it is really falling together.

Keep focusing on what you want.

If you focus on what you don’t want you will keep getting more of ‘I don’t want this’.

Throw an ‘I want’ tantrum and scream at the top of your lungs how good it will be when you get it, what it looks like having it and how ecstatic you feel. Throw in how deserving you are too.

If you want to go to San Diego you don’t focus on ‘not wanting to go to San Francisco’, right?

Everything is everything.

You want X then focus on X. Do NOT focus on not wanting Y.

Practice! Practice! Practice!

Have fun and enjoy the process and the journey, because once you arrive a new journey begins.

Who Are You in Your Heart?

Who Are You in Your Heart?

I have spent the last 30 years building a highly successful jewelry business along side my incredible husband. About two years ago it hit me like a ton of bricks that I’d lost my identity in it all. I knew who my husband was. I knew who my daughter and my grand kids were. I knew my ‘role’ in my business. But none of it is who I AM. It is only what I did for a living! But I have to say, I thought that is who I AM. I AM a business woman. I AM a wife. I AM a ________ (fill in the blank).

About a month or so ago I was sitting with a beautiful woman named Mary. We had been chatting earlier about our business lives, our families and our relationships. In the context of finding out if Mary worked with me what was it she would like to get from having done so. I asked Mary “Who are you?” and she proceeded to tell me all her roles in life; mother, wife, sister, business owner, etc. She spoke them like they were who she was. I listened and when she was done I placed my hand near her heart and I said “But who are you in your heart?” She understood immediately as tears started to well up in her eyes. For a precious moment she let herself feel her heart and she knew that is who she really is; that cherished and highest vibration of all, love. But, like most of us (including me)  she didn’t let herself ‘feel’ that place for very long, only seconds in fact, and then she was quickly back to her roles again.

What prevents us from knowing, cherishing and honoring this place in our beings more than our roles in life? Are we all just too busy, or just too unconscious? Or are we all too wounded? Or have we just forgotten and it’s time to remember? Or is it a little of all of the above?

As a child I was never held or hugged or told that I was loved.

I’m 60 years old this month and I’m in a place of reinvention. I want to know my heart. I don’t want to have to go to a movie to be moved, I want to live in that place. Two years ago I found myself so thirsty for my own self love that I was in my bathtub hugging myself and crying. It felt incredible to hold ME, though, to really feel me!

How many of us hug ourselves? We hug everyone else, why not ourselves? I invite you to start hugging yourself and really feel it! It’s amazing! At first I thought I was a little nuts, but now it makes perfect sense to me. If I can’t feel myself, how can I feel anyone else? To know who we are in our hearts is to come home. That’s my truth.

The Emotional Baggage Scale

The ‘Emotional Baggage’ Scale

How much does your emotional baggage weigh?

If you were charged for it when you fly on an airplane, like you are for your physical baggage, how much would it cost you?

How much is it costing you in your life in terms of love, joy, freedom, intimacy, confidence, fun, relationships, etc?

How much is it costing you in health bills? If not now, later on in life how much will it cost you?

Better question still, at what level are you even in touch with how much emotional baggage you have yet to release?

If you’ve done a lot of work on releasing your emotional baggage, good job! Now, dig deeper! The more drudging you do in this area the more freed up you’ll be, the more room you have for creating the life of your dreams and the less it costs you in every area of your life!

 

If you’re experiencing a lot of struggle, effort, resistance, confusion, anger, start/stopping, sadness, all the reasons why it can’t, you can’t, they won’t then you have a lot of work to do in becoming aware of what is under these experiences, and what is under those, and what is under those. By finding out what is under the emotion you can start putting together how you’re actually ‘wired up’ and you can begin to change that wiring. It takes doing the work of looking, being with the emotions, asking the questions (‘Where did this get programmed in me like this?’) then making new choices and anchoring these choices to positive associations.

It’s called transformation, which is actually changing the formation of what’s been transmitted, what you are transmitting and what you are receiving; that is, your perceptions.

I released a lot of emotional baggage this past weekend and I actually felt immediately lighter when the shift occurred. I looked younger, felt lighter and looked softer. We really do hold the weight of our emotions in our bodies and in our energy fields. We all need to be responsible for cleaning them out. I am taking a dump truck with a crane and dredging in on mine! I plan to lose a lot of emotional baggage weight, and fast! And not by emotional or spiritual ah ha’s but by making actual changes to my neurological wiring!